Oct 1, 2011 - a couple of the Present:Hope tour team watch the sun set after having toured the devastation of tornadoes in the Tuscaloosa/Birmingham, AL area.

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I am mindful these past couple of days that it was just a year ago that almost 300 tornadoes ripped through Alabama and left almost that many people dead. according to the weather channel, it was one of the largest outbreaks of tornadoes in history.. the destruction path was over 18 states.

It was only seven months ago that i rode with 12 others as part of Venture Expeditions the Present Hope Tour  through that area to help bring awareness of the good  work that Convoy of Hope was championing to help rebuild peoples lives and their homes.  just watched a report of the Gov. of Alabama reminding all that the recovery and rebuilding is still continuing.  it will be years yet til all is restored.   

but there’s a tension that becomes apparent when one studies the list in the photo of questions recently submitted by the 4th graders at a local elementary school of questions they want answers to that they are afraid to ask their parents about.  wow.

in a recent email from a Kingdom ally the following thots were posed…

What is our generation’s legacy?  What do we want it to be?  As a generalization we’ve given to the world:

Divorce is an easy, acceptable, pragmatic even preferred option.
The family structure as optional, “Hey, the kids are strong. They can handle it.” Right.
Selfishness justifies anything.
Science trumps wisdom (when in truth it validates it).
Godlessness trumps truth.
Youth, ripped, endless sex, rock and roll, and money are our Gods.
Self-indulgence is foundational: It is our right.
Abortion is an assumed right. It is the foundation of any compassionate, rational human being.
Abstinence is impractical, foolish, it is downright uncool. Holiness is ridiculous.
The world is to be worshipped (mother earth) as infants are murdered.
Terrorists are terrorists unless they kill Christians, then it is not newsworthy.
We deserve everything. We are accountable for nothing.
We wil never age, nor lose our sex appeal, nor die.
It is better to know more about the Khardasians, Survivor and other reality shows than it is to know our God.
Good is bad, and bad is good.

my friend goes on to ask:

Why are the kids the way they are? Who has guided them? Who will guide them?

and then offers this word from God:
“He who overcomes will inherit these things, and I will be his God and he will be My son. But for the cowardly and unbelieving and abominable and murderers and immoral persons and sorcerers and idolaters and all liars, their part will be in the lake that burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.” [Rev 21:7-8]

and then states

The “cowardly” . . . Thanks to all that have turned and are walking with Christ to make a difference.  Forgive me for when I don’t.  Who will stand and say, “The legacy must change!”  Who is still so trapped by the world that they are no earthly good because they are too encumbered by this earth? I am not throwing stones; I am letting you see the questions exploding in my own heart.

wondering now in my own mind where to chart the course to helping 4th graders ask different questions.  your thoughts?

Indeed, there is much behind where we are going culturally…we need to be praying for clarity on how to turn the cultural tide.

This is day 7 of the “eric trap” blog tour and i’ve offered up a few thots here on my video review.  I’ll admit the fact that fictional children’s ministry Eric Newman works at New Hope Community Church made me taken an even closer look….and there was more than a couple of times where i wondered if Jim-Sam-Kenny had read my journals.  Seriously in more than 6 years as a pastor, vocationally and an additional 30 years as a volunteer in children’s/student  ministry i’ve encountered every aspect of Eric’s tough week chronicled in the book.

I don’t want to spoil the book for you, but when you finish you’ll be wondering what next steps Eric will be taking…and it all comes down to this…

We win or lose by the way we choose.

~Jim Wideman

For the reader the biggest and most practical take away and consideration is the encouragement from the author’s and their team to take your journal and turn the conversation to your own circumstance and begin to process how you are leading.   The task we are called to in ministry is not easy because its about coming along side others who are equally broken and disconnected and offering them a place where together we get to live out our faith by serving God.  Its hard work.  Its supposed to be.

I need to say again, The Eric Trap isn’t just for those in children’s ministry.  The collective wisdom is something i think every leader needs to process through.  And if you’re a volunteer or a parent this book will give you a better appreciation for what should be the expectations in the local church.  It’s an easy read and is worth the investment of time and money.   Its available here.

disclosure:  i did receive a free e-reader copy of this book for this review.

i’m tired of the mess we have weaved for our children. i’m tired of being in schools the day after a young person has taken their young life…i’m tired of trying to be present in an ER with a young person who’s taken an overdose because the mess of their family leaves them, in their mind, no other recourse. i’m tired of those in the Kingdom not realizing the places we’ve created called “church” where community is anything but. i’m not sure the solution, but the process of restoration is going to be long and hard for our culture.  we’ve got to return to God’s blueprint. in the video, jeremy shares the wisdom of a friend who decided to begin anew. leaving behind the mess of their past, they said “you have to start from here…“  jeremy also shares that…

the trees with the deepest roots grow the highest…

so i’m going to rethink some things…some root things…i told my students this week i was going silent til Easter on the internets…i.e. facebook-texting-allthingssocialnetworks-etc. if they want me i’m available…ring me or come see me in the office or when i visit their schools. i’m going to use the margin to study, pray and learn. see you in april.

that once a child “knows” about things sexual there is never again a time of not knowing. 

that’s not a problem unless the child is at an age that they can’t process what it all means.  and since the “knowing” thing is being learned at younger ages we need to be concerned.   i have conversations weekly with students in 4th,  5th and 6th grade who are “dating”…and who as they date are “making out” and taking a journey down a road that most likely end in some kind of “wreck”.

Particularly troubling is the impact of the sexualization of young girls.  some of the impact that Smith shared is sobering…

• Cognitive and emotional consequences -Studies have found that thinking about the body and comparing it to sexualized cultural ideals may disrupt a girl’s mental concentration, and a girl’s sexualization or objectification may undermine her confidence in and comfort with her own body, leading to emotional and self-image problems, such as shame and anxiety.
• Mental and physical health- Research has linked sexualization with three of the most common mental health problems diagnosed in girls and women: eating disorders, low self-esteem, and depression or depressed mood.
• Sexual development – Research suggests that the sexualization of girls has negative consequences on girls’ ability to develop a healthy sexual self-image

There are a couple more webinars in the coming months that will be definitely worth the investment of time.  Learn more about the webinars here.